Resilience training won't make you more resilient

**Warning** Resilience Training Will Not Make You More Resilient

This statement may be bucking the personal development trend somewhat, but there is a fact you should know: resilience training WILL NOT make you more resilient.

Yes, you read that correctly – training alone cannot make you more resilient, and there’s a very good reason why. You’re in control of your resilience, so making changes to your personal resilience levels requires your commitment to changing the way you think about, and react to situations. There is one secret (and very important) ingredient in boosting your resilience, and that’s practice…in real-life situations.

Let’s start at the beginning – what is resilience and why do you need to focus on it? 

Quite simply, resilience is a mindset, a way of processing information, making decisions and behaving. Resilience affects the way we deal with challenging situations and recover from knock-backs. It influences how we use experiences (positive and challenging) to thrive in the future and boost our personal performance.

We all have a natural resilience level, but no matter where you sit on the resilience scale, most of us could benefit from boosting our resilience. Most resilience trainers will advise of how resilience helps you to cope effectively with challenges, improving your recovery time and helping you to move forward when you hit roadblocks. But this is only half of the story, there is a unique and generally untapped benefit of being resilient, and that’s the impact it can have on improving your performance, helping you to reach significant goals.

No matter where you sit on the resilience scale; low, medium or high, by improving your resilience you’ll not only deal with obstacles in a way that helps you to achieve a better result for you, but you’ll also master your mindset to achieve more and hone your performance in areas of life that are important to you.

Resilience outcomes

We can teach you the six steps to building resilience. We can show you how to boost your resilience using techniques to enhance your resilience skills. But we cannot make you resilient. In order to build your resilience, you need to practice your new skills and use the knowledge you’ve learnt in real-life, challenging situations.

Sure, we can create a simulation or a pretend scenario for you to practice your resilience skills, but let’s be honest, is that really going to help you to make deep, transformational change to the way you think and behave in your normal life outside of the training room? No. It will help you understand the components of resilience, but to create your resilience, you need challenges to deal with, and you need to assess your performance over time.

So here’s the irony – many people look to build their resilience in order to avoid the pain of dealing with challenging situations. But, in order to boost your resilience, you need to encounter those challenges and obstacles, use the skills in your new mindset toolbox, and learn from the experience. You grow your resilience muscles by using them – so you need real life experiences in which to flex your mindset muscles and practice your approach.

Strong, sustainable success.

If you want to boost your resilience in a long-term, sustainable way, there are some clear steps you can take, to see transformational results.

Often we focus on steps one to three and miss steps four and five, which is a problem if you want to see transformational change as these later steps are where the magic happens. Why is it we often don’t focus on the practice and refine and review stages? The final two parts of the process are the hardest – this is where you take what you’ve learnt and put it into practice. It requires commitment, focus, support and guidance, but this is where you’ll make strong, sustainable changes to your mindset. If you want to see results, these final two stages are critical.

It’s clear: resilience training will not make you resilient, only you can do that. Once armed with knowledge, self-awareness, tools and techniques, you can put it all into practice and learn from the review process to create your own resilience success formula.

Resilience training will help you on your resilience journey, but you’re in control of your success. The strides you make enhancing your resilience, and the results you see will be due to your effort. It will be your success story.

Resilience Edge

Interested to learn more? Check out our resilience articles…

The Success PerspectiveThe skill entrepreneurs need